In this episode of The Quit Binge Eating Podcast, Alen gives updates and then talks in depth about an audience requested topic: Telling Others About your Binge Eating Disorder.
Introduction & Update
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Feature: Telling Others About Your Binge Eating Disorder
Alen talks for 40 minutes about how to tell others about your Binge Eating Disorder.
So why don’t some of us want to tell others?
- being embarrassed, feeling ashamed or guilt
- amounts that you eat are not normal and often what you eat is not normal or even tastes that good
- binge eating alone with no one else around
- you know there are other problems pushing you towards being eating and you don’t want to acknowledge them or you , don’t understand them
- Admitting weakness – this is a big one for anyone who is a business professional, head of a household or a leader somewhere. In much of today’s culture many people fear admitting they have a problem for how others might view them professionally or personally.
- Fear that maybe it’s not a real problem. Two parts
- You think that it’s not a real problem you have either in terms of not believing it’s an actual eater disorder and that you’re just being weak willed.
- Others around you might not think it’s a real problem. don’t think it’s a real problem. “Can’t you just stop eating when you’re full?”
- No outward physical signs to convince someone that you have a eating disorder.
- No real outwards signs other than weight gain but since being overweight is such an epidemic this will not raise a lot of flags.
- Esp for men, traditionally for guys beyond their twenties, our culture seems to feel it OK for guys like me to be overweight because hey, guys are supposed to be big.
- It’s not like Anorexia where you’re not eating anything Many women today have told me they are purging bulimics and therefore able to keep their weight down
So who and how should you tell about your problem?
- Think though all the problems I listed earlier about why you feel embarrassed, ashamed or guilty about your binge eating problem. Be honest with yourself and tell yourself how you feel about the problem and yourself. Make a list for yourself if you need to. Then think about each item you listed and try to understand why you feel that way about yourself. You didn’t chose to have this problem. If you could have stopped you would have, right?
- Possibly attend a meeting or listen to someone who has recovered from an eating disorder tell their story and how they shared their secret.
- If you already are seeking helping from a therapist or are in a group session then pose this question to them.
- Identify who you want to share with (parents, grandparents, spouse, sibling, child and then friends or others outside your family)
- Once you’ve identified who you want to tell then do some fear reduction exercises before talking with anyone in your family or with a friend.
- Look inward and understand for yourself why you want and need to share this with someone.
- Practice it first in a mirror.
- Start out with “I have something that’s really hard for me to talk about but it’s very important and I would like to talk with you about it.”
- Explain to them that you’re struggling and hurting and tell about your problem. Share details
- Do your own research on binge eating disorder and have some links to websites bookmarked you can share with them or print out some articles ahead of time to give to them.
- At the end of the conversation, if you don’t want them telling anyone else then make sure you emphasize that point with them.
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